Where is the common courtesy in this world?

Well this blog, really is a rant!

Now eventhough I do whinge via here - those who know me, will know that I am a bit of a push over. In fact whenever there is anything that needs to be done that has the slightest chance there will be a "heated discussion" I will generally just lie down and take the fall - or I get someone else to do it for me.  I guess I just expect that everyone is relatively decent.

So today whilst the sun is out, I decide to embark on a bit of a train ride into the city.

Why?

1. Its cheap

2. the journey is an hour - so that fills in 2 hours at least of the day

3. Mr 2 year old LOVES trains, so its the perfect outing.

So we head off to the station, pram, baby, bag and Mr 2 all in tow.

So far so good!

A nice man helps me on to the train......... which was a bit of an issue in itself, I knew he was harmless, just a nice man helping a mother with kids in tow - but he asked Oliver to hold his hand - to which he didn't even flinch, up the hand goes and they walk together........

the train is pretty busy, but 1 lady vacates the seat next to the door and a spare seat. 

Now I need to paint the picture here - pram in front of me, Mr 2 next to me, Miss 6 week old asleep in my arms. I decide to hold her for the duration in fear that her pram will get knocked, or someone will fall on top of her.  First stop........ a suburb, that perhaps...... well not the nicest people tend to live here. (Yes this is a generalization, i am sure there are plenty of nice and decent people residing here, but well............)

Mr 2 decides he is a bit on the peckish side.No problems, I have a few plain biscuits in the pram. "When the train stops Mum will get you some biscuits out of the pram"

Train Stops

I get up, manoeuvering Miss M, so she doesn't fly out of my arms, bending down at back of pram foraging through the bag for the biscuits....... got it

As I turn to go back to my seat (next to Mr 2) there is a lady sitting in it.

Now I know that this is my turn to jump up and down, give me my seat back.... blah blah. 

Just so much to see (this is on the way back)

But:-

1. I'm not that type of person

2. I ASSUME that perhaps this woman would just get up.

3. I thought that perhaps the 1 hour ride, standing on a packed train holding a baby wouldn't be too bad. 

4. I thought that perhaps someone else close by (we are on a packed train) might get up and offer another seat.

So off we go - the stop all station hour long journey to the city.

The more stations we go through, the more people get on, the more packed it becomes.  The distance between Mr 2 and myself is about 1 metre - but within that metre are a few people standing.  I cant stand where they are because then I have nothing to hold on to.  Miss 6 weeks - sound asleep in my arms, oblivious to all of this, the rocking (and at times jerking) of the train keeping her asleep.

That's right lady - you best not look up from that book you are reading

That's right lady - put those ear phones in so that you cant hear my son, talking to me across the train
That's right lady do not even look up and make eye contact with me

That's right everyone else close by...... best not make eye contact

Needless to say Mr 2 had a lovely time riding the trains - headed to city, quick lunch with his Dad, up and down a few escalators, then back on the train home.

It just makes me mad - We spend so much time ensuring that our children are well behaved, use their manners (even if they forget, when prompted they soon remember what they need to say), we work hard making sure they have respect for their elders........ seems some people don't have the same upbringing - or don't feel that these traits are necessary.

Yes I should have said something, I guess I just thought that I can stand and perhaps its not that big a deal??